使人有面前之誉,不若使人无背后之毁;使人有乍交之欢,不若使人无久处之厌。
与其让人当着你的面夸赞你,不如不让人在你的背后指指点点。
与其让人一见面就对你产生好感,不如不让人因处久而嫌厌你。
To make people praise you right in your face is no better than not to make them vilify you behind your back.
To make people show a liking to you at first meeting is no better than not to make them think scorn of you in the course of time.