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性骚扰者:一句道歉有多难?

热门话题#MeToo让无数伪君子现了原形,也让我们见识到了许多奇奇怪怪的“道歉”。性骚扰者的道歉甚少提起受害者,反而通篇充斥着浓浓的自恋,仿佛被指控性骚扰是他们走上启蒙之路的第一步。

测试中可能遇到的词汇和知识:

onslaught ['ɒnslɔːt] n. 突击,猛攻

acumen ['ækjəmən] n. 锐敏,聪明

trope [trəʊp] n. 比喻,借喻

denominator [dɪ'nɒmɪneɪtə(r)] n. 分母,平均水平

surreptitious [ˌsʌrəp'tɪʃəs] adj. 鬼鬼祟祟的,保密的

阅读马上开始,建议您计算一下阅读整篇文章所用的时间,对照下方的参考值就可以评估出您的英文阅读水平。

Sorry is the hardest word for sexual harassers (676 words)

By Emma Jacobs

#MeToo ripped through 2017. Women — and men — broke their silence and out poured a volcanic rage engulfing Silicon Valley, Hollywood, the media, restaurant industry and politics. They told stories, so many stories, about sexual harassment.

In their wake came statements of regret from the accuseD.Upon scrutiny these crumbled into dust.

And so 2017 was marked by a series of terrible apologies by Goliaths who had been exposed, this time unwillingly, as harassers. This year has shown that there is no perfect way to apologise for inappropriate requests, gropes or assaults. But there are plenty of wrong ways.

Harvey Weinstein produced a model of the bad apology. His opening declaration set the tone for an onslaught of wrongness.

“I came of age in the ‘60s and’ 70s when all the rules about behaviour and workplaces were different. That was the culture then.” This is a common line of defence by men who claim to be hopeless dinosaurs, out of touch with changing sensibilities. First, that excuse only works if all men of the same age think it is OK to ruin a woman's career if she refuses their advances. Second, while some women might have put up with it in the past, that does not mean they liked or wanted it. Quite the opposite.

Yet there is also a kind of selective evolution at play here. Harassers, particularly ones who are proud of their professional acumen, manage to stay attuned to so many developments in the business world — the arrival of disruptive technologies, say, or of new overseas markets. Yet they are blind to changes in workplace behaviour. Such blindness seems wilful.

Mr Weinstein's apology also included the pledge that he was embarking on therapy. This is a trope that has been reiterated by numerous other apologists. Being caught becomes “a voyage of self-discovery”, as if lunging at a colleague is the first step on the path to enlightenment.

Charlie Rose, the journalist and talk show host, who lost his job in November after he was accused of harassment, said he had “learnt a great deal as a result of these events”. Then he turned it into a generous gift — a teachable moment for everybody else, as he wrote that he hoped that “others will [learn] too”. He continued: “All of us, including me, are coming to a newer and deeper recognition of the pain caused by conduct in the past, and have come to a profound new respect for women and their lives.”

The common denominator in all these apologies is narcissism. That these men were so entitled that they thought they could behave as they wished was always the problem. These apologies are self-indulgent me-pologies: all about the perpetrator not about the victims.

I picked a few me-pologies to see how many times they used the word “I”. Harvey Weinstein's count was 37 times in 26 sentences; Charlie Rose used the word 14 times in eight sentences, and Louis CK, the comedian who was accused of harassment in November, 36 times in 26 sentences (although one was in the title of his new film, I Love You, Daddy, which is now shelved).

I talked to a friend about her most recent experience of harassment, at a small company that employed no newsworthy stars. It was not a headline-grabbing assault. It was a drip, drip, drip of unwanted emails about her appearance, sent to her work and personal accounts, supplemented by texts at weekends.

She caught her harasser surreptitiously taking pictures of her. Colleagues joked about his shrine to her at home. When she told the human resources department, they just warned her to be careful. In the end, she left the company.

A few months later, her former employer got back in touch — inevitably her harasser had started on other women.

After she heard that he had left, I asked whether she wanted him to apologise. No. She had heard enough from him — she just wanted to be heard herself.

That made me think of two bright spots in Louis CK's apology. These were simply: “These stories are true” and “I will… take a long time to listen.”

请根据你所读到的文章内容,完成以下自测题目:

1.What is #MeToo according to the article?

A.A hashtag which encouraged people accused with sexual harassment to explain themselves.

B.A hashtag which encouraged sexual harassers to make apologies to their female victims.

C.A hashtag which encouraged women to share their experience about domestic violence.

D.A hashtag which encouraged people to publicize their stories about sexual harassment.

答案 (1)

2.Harvey Weinstein claimed that he sexually harassed women because ____.

A.he is a sex addict and he doesn't have control over his behaviour.

B.some women have put up with his improper advances in the past.

C.he has been out of touch with changing workplace behaviour.

D.he thinks it's OK to ruin a woman's career if she refuses his advances.

答案 (2)

3.According to the author, the sexual harassers' apologies ____.

A.are mostly narcissistic and self-centered.

B.use disease as a strategy to evoke empathy.

C.refuse to admit they have made big mistakes.

D.are the first step on the path to enlightenment.

答案 (3)

4.What did the author's friend do to cope with sexual harassment?

A.She reported to her employer.

B.She informed the police.

C.She left the company.

D.She learned to be more careful.

答案 (4)


(1) 答案:D.A hashtag which encouraged people to publicize their stories about sexual harassment.解释:#MeToo在2017年掀起话题。女性——还有男性——讲出了他们关于性骚扰的许多故事。

(2) 答案:C.he has been out of touch with changing workplace behaviour.解释:那些自称无可救药的男人常常这样为自己辩护,称他们自己与不断发展的文化脱节了。

(3) 答案:A.are mostly narcissistic and self-centered.解释:所有这些道歉的共同点是自恋,他们都围绕着行为人而不是受害者。

(4) 答案:C.She left the company.解释:当她向人力部门投诉时,他们只是让她当心一点。最终,她离开了那家公司。 obs9zImHftmJ7dA2Cw2TSaOylJJbwao8JMxKH+L/cUv9OBpKb9pTFLZPFOxcUNgM

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