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People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed . They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually . They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. Sometimes they die. What we must realize is that our need has been met. Our desire fulfilled ， their work is done. Your need has been answered, and now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant .
人们走进你的生活，或许是为了一个原因，或许是一段时间的停留，或许是一生相随。一旦明晓其中究竟，你将知道如何对待他们。
当某人因为一个原因出现在你的生命中时，通常他们满足了你的需要——帮你渡过难关，引导和支持你，在物质上、情感上、精神上帮助你。他们的出现是因为你的需要。然后毫无缘由的或很不合时宜的，这人说了什么或者做了什么便中止了你们的情谊。有时候是他们离你而去，有时候是他们故意找茬逼得你奋起反抗，有时候则是因为他们离世。我们必须认识到，我们的需要已经被满足，我们的愿望已经实现，他们的工作也已经完成。你的需要得到了满足，现在是时候继续前行了。
有的人在你的生活中会停留一段时间，那是因为你到了一个分享、成长或学习的阶段。他们让你体验平和，让你欢笑。他们可能会教给你一些你以前从没做过的事情。他们总能带给你多到难以置信的乐趣。相信这一点！这是真的！可这只能维持一段时间。
一生相随的感情教会你受益终生的道理：你必须做那些为了打造坚不可摧的感情基础而必须要做的事。你需要明白这个道理，对一生相随的人付出关爱，并将你所学到的应用到生命中的其他方面中去。爱情令人盲目，而友谊却能使你清醒。
figure ou t想出，理解，明白
例句 I can’t figure out why he quit his job.我琢磨不透他为什么要辞掉工作。
express [ik'spres] vt.表示
例句 Learning to express oneself well is an important part of education. 学会把意思表达清楚是教育的一个重要方面。
assist [ə'sist] v/ n.帮助，协助
例句 He asked us to assist him in carrying through his plan. 他请求我们帮他实施他的计划。
spiritually ['spiritʃuəli] adv.精神上
例句 They were spiritually regenerated by his speech. 听了他的讲话后，他们在精神上获得了新生。
wrongdoing ['rɔŋ'du:iŋ] n.坏事，不道德行为，不法行为
例句 The company denies any wrongdoing. 公司否认有不法行为。
inconvenient [ ,inkən'vi:niənt] a.不方便的
例句 This is extremely inconvenient. 这极不方便。
desire [di'zaiə] vt.渴望；要求，请求 n.愿望，欲望
例句 I am filled with desire to go back home. 我心中充满了回家的渴望。
fulfill [ful'fil vt.履行，实现，完成；满足，使满意
例句 You must fulfill your promise. 你必须履行诺言。
unbelievable [，ʌnbi'li:vəbl] adj.难以置信的
例句 It is unbelievable how stupid he is. 他真是笨得令人难以置信。
clairvoyant [klɛə'vɔiənt] adj.千里眼的，透视的，有洞察力的 n.法眼，有洞察力的人
例句 Nothing can escape the clairvoyant. 没有事能逃过法眼。
When you fgure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
这一句话中包含了由when 引导的时间状语从句,which 引导的宾语从句,what 引导的宾语从句。下面我们依次讲解。
时间状语从句 用表示时间的连词连接一个句子作状语，这样的主从复合句中的从句就是时间状语从句。
When you think you know nothing, then you begin to know something.
当你以为自己一无所知的时候，你就是在开始知道一些事物了。
He was still smiling when his wife came in.
他正笑着的时候，他妻子走了进来。
I was thinking of this when I heard my name called.
我正想着这件事时，突然听到有人叫我的名字。
They were gossiping, when they should have been working.
他们本该工作，却在那里说别人的闲话。
宾语从句 在句子中起宾语作用的从句叫做宾语从句。
which是一个连接代词，在宾语从句中可以充当主语，宾语或定语。意思是“哪一个” 如：
I don’t know which bike belongs to my father.
我不知道哪一辆自行车是爸爸的。
He asked me which I liked best.
他问我最喜欢哪一个。
He can’t tell which method they will use for the experiment.
他不知道他们将使用哪种方法做这个实验。
Can you tell me which house is yours?
你能告诉我哪栋房子是你的吗？
I don’t know which company he works in.
我不知道他在哪家公司工作。
what引导名词性从句，可在从句中作主语、宾语、表语。例如：
The book will show you what the best CEOs know.
这本书会告诉你最好的执行总裁该了解些什么。
I don’t know what you did.
我不知道你做了什么。
二者区别 一般来说， wha t 没有范围， wh ich 是在有范围之内的一种选择。
I want to know what book you like to read.
我想知道你想看哪本书。(没有指定范围，有许多许多书供你选。)
I want to know which book you like to read best of the three.
我想知道这三本书中你最想看哪本。(有范围，在范围中选择。)
1. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
人们走进你的生活，或许是为了一个原因，或许是一段时间的停留，或许是一生相随。一旦明晓其中究竟，你将知道如何对待他们。
2. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
当某人因为一个原因出现在你的生命中时，通常他们满足了你的需要。
3. When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
有的人在你的生活中会停留一段时间，那是因为你到了一个分享、成长或学习的阶段。
4. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
一生相随的感情教会你受益终生的道理：那些为了打造坚不可摧的感情基础而必须要做的事。你需要明白这个道理，对一生相随的人付出关爱，并将你所学到的应用到感情和生命中的其他方面中去。爱情令人盲目，而友谊却让你醍醐灌顶。
If a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man, Sir, should keep his friendship in constant repair.
——Samuel Johnson: James Boswell Life of Samuel Johnson
如果一个人在生活中不能认识新的朋友，他很快就会发现自己孤身一人。一个人应该不断地维护修理与朋友的友谊。
——塞缪尔·约翰森，出自《詹姆士·包斯威尔传》
One friend in a lifetime is much, two are many, three are hardly possible. Friendship needs a certain parallelism of life, a community of thought, a rivalry of aim.
——Henry Adams
一生中有一个好友已经足够，两个就算很多，三个几乎不可能。友谊需要两人之间的平等，思想上的统一，以及实现共同目标的竞争。
——亨利·亚当斯