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从前有一只圆圈缺了一块楔子。圆圈想保持完整，便四处寻找失去的那块楔子。由于它不完整，所以只能慢慢地滚动。一路上，它对花儿露出羡慕之色。它与蠕虫谈天说地。它还欣赏到了阳光之美。圆圈找到了许许多多不同的配件，但是没有一件能完美地与它相配。所以，它将它们统统弃置路旁，继续寻觅。终于有一天，它找到了一个完美的配件。圆圈是那样地高兴，现在它可以说是完美无缺了。它装好配件，然后滚动起来。它已成了一个完整的圆圈，所以滚动得非常快，快得以至于无暇观赏花儿，也无暇与蠕虫倾诉心声。圆圈快奔急骋，发现眼中的世界变得如此不同，于是，它不禁停了下来，将找到的那个配件留在路旁，又开始了慢慢地滚动。
我觉得这个故事告诉我们，从某种奇妙意义上讲，当我们失去了一些东西时，反而会感到更加完整。一个拥有一切的人其实在某些方面是个穷人。他永远也体会不到什么是渴望、期待以及对美好梦想的感悟。他也永远不会产生这样一种体验：一个爱他的人送给他某种他梦寐以求的或者从未拥有过的东西意味着什么。
人生的完整性在于一个人知道如何面对他的缺陷，如何勇敢地摒弃那些不现实的幻想而又不以此为缺憾。人生的完整性还在于一个男人或女人懂得这样一个道理：他（她）发现自己能勇敢地面对人生悲剧而继续生存，能够在失去亲人后依然表现出一个完整的人的风范。
人生不是上帝为谴责我们的缺陷而给我们布下的陷阱。人生也不是一场拼字游戏比赛。不管你拼出多少单词，一旦出现了一个错误，你便前功尽弃。人生更像是一个棒球赛季。即使最好的球队比赛也会输掉1/3，而最差的球队也有春风得意的日子。我们的目标就是多赢球，少输球。
我们接受了不完整性是人类本性的一部分，我们不断地进行人生滚动并能意识到其价值，我们就会完成完整人生的过程。而对于别人来讲，这只能是一个梦想。我相信这就是上帝对我们的要求：不求“完美”，也不求“永不犯错误”，而是求得人生的“完整”。
如果我们勇敢得能够去爱，坚强得能够去宽容，大度得能够去分享他人的幸福，明智得能够理解身边充满爱，那么我们就能取得别的生物所不能取得的成就。
wedge vt. 楔入
They carried out an experiment with a thin wedge of gold and visible light to demonstrate similar results with no negative refraction.
他们以薄的楔形黄金和可见光进行了一项实验，示范在不是负折射的情况下也可以产生类似的结果。
incorporate vt. 包含，合并
These creatures could incorporate raw meat in their diet and process food more efficiently.
这些动物能够在其食物中加上生肉，能更有效地对食物加工。
yearn vi. 渴望，向往
We yearn to surrender our entire being.
我们渴望着放纵我们整个的生命。
nourish vt. 滋养
Action is the food and drink which will nourish my success.
行动是我的食粮，滋养着我的成功。
trap vt. 诱捕
Second is to avoid the“yes man”trap.
接下来是避免“好好先生”布置的陷阱。
condemn vt. 谴责
I can certainly condemn it， and I do so now.
我当然可以谴责这种行为，我现在也正是这么做的。
rejoice vi. 高兴
Investors， too， have reason to rejoice.
投资者同样也有理由高兴。
fulfillment n. 履行
He was willing to face any hardship in fulfillment of his duty.
他愿意面对任何困难去履行他的职责。
人生充满着喜、怒、哀、乐，每个人的人生都会面对着许多无法排遣的苦恼。有些人因为这些烦恼而怨天尤人，裹足不前。殊不知，没有谁的人生是完美的。接受自己的人生，接受曾经一切的失败和成功，为未来而努力，就是完整的人生。
If you want to drain your mental energy,there is one easy way to do so: compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with others will only give you two things: either you feel proud when you are above,or you feel jealous and intimidated when you are below. As you can see,both are negative emotions that won't do you any good.
Unfortunately,our culture is full of comparisons. People like to compare themselves with others.
While some people may say that comparing is a way to motivate themselves,I think there is a better way to do that without draining our mental energy. Here it is:
Find a role model and use him as a pacer.
A role model is someone whose quality and achievements you admire. It's no secret that the way to be great is by emulating those who are great. By finding the right role model,you will have concrete example of the qualities you want to achieve. Since those qualities are now tangible ,it will be much easier for you to run after them. By selecting the right role model and running after him,you will quickly improve yourself.
Here are some steps to apply this principle:
1. Stop looking at others' statistics
This is the way to stop comparing yourself with others. I know this is not easy to do since we have the tendency to compare ourselves with others. But,as I've said above,this will only drain your mental energy. So resist the temptation to look at others' statistics for comparison sake.
2. Look around for someone whom you want to emulate
Instead of comparing,you should find someone you want to emulate. This is perhaps the most difficult step here because it's not easy to find the right role model. Your role model should:
have significant achievements that you want to emulate （in this case,you do need to look at his statistics）.
not so far ahead that you can't realistically hope to run after him
have performed well consistently for long time
have other characteristics that are similar to you or your situation.
The last point is important. There are perhaps some persons who have the achievements you want,but,looking at their characteristics,they are very different from you. In that case,it will be too difficult and unnatural to emulate them. The more similar their characteristics with yours,the more natural it will be to emulate them.
While you can choose some models to emulate,in my opinion it is better to have only one main role model. Just like having one goal make it easier for you to achieve it,having one main role model make it easier for you to emulate him. Of course,you are unique so you also need to learn from other models to find the unique combination that fits you,but still,having one main model is helpful.
3. Look closely at how your role model does things
To emulate your role model,you should find out the details of how he or she does things. Watch your role model closely. Study his work,life,and methods. Try to dissect the traits and actions that make him successful.
4. Set some actions to take based on your findings
You should then turn your findings into some actions you can take. These are the things you can do to bring you closer to your model's achievement .
5. Set your role model's current statistics and quality as your target
As I wrote above,your role model acts as a pacer. So set his statistics and quality as your target to run after. Of course,you should not blindly try to match the numbers. Adjust things to match your unique circumstances.
6. Aim to emulate your role model as quickly as possible
To make sure that you do not just sit down and relax,you should make a decision to run as fast as you can.
Your role model may have been ahead of you when you reach his current level of achievement,but that's fine. The most important thing is you run as fast as you can.